Charles said that reconciliation conversations tend to focus on the historical trauma that communities of color have faced, and he affirmed that this must continue to be the case. The problem, he suggested, is that the conversation around trauma stops with them. But what about the white community? While the traumas experienced by victims and by oppressors are qualitatively different on every level and can therefore never be compared, it’s impossible to be complicit with centuries of traumatizing oppression without becoming traumatized oneself. This was a groundbreaking idea for me. While I had
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