Inadvertently, we offend or come off as insensitive or somehow inappropriate, and we know that very often, we completely miss the first, subtle signs that we’ve made waves. So we’re used to feelings getting big and problems getting bigger before we spot them, always wondering where the next explosion will come from a bomb we never knew we’d set off in the first place. It’s only natural that we’re in a constant state of hypervigilance. We know, from experience, that until someone explicitly gives logic to their feelings, we won’t really know why what we’ve said or did has caused harm or
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