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I assumed he wasn’t like me, the guy who keeps his phone in his hand the entire day, but it was still nerve-racking to not get a text back after a few hours. I had really put myself out there by sending that message. The least I would expect was an answer, even if it was
I love butterflies because I love that feeling of butterflies in your stomach that you get when you’re nervous.
get to be genuinely nervous about a potentially positive outcome. Being nervous is uncommon; it’s uncomfortable; it’s stressful. That’s why it’s awesome. Being nervous is how I feel alive. To me, it’s a rush. A mental bungee jump.
need to think this way
but by not reaching out to him because I was scared of rejection I wasn’t giving either one of us a chance to change the story.
hits home!
What I hope you take away from this is that sometimes we assign completely false narratives to stories because they make life easier to understand. I did. I imagined my real dad
But it was easier for me to believe that over the truth, because it allowed me to make him the bad guy. The truth is that he is just flawed. I am also flawed, and I hope people can understand and forgive me like I have my dad.
I believe that our lives are powered by countless microdecisions.
Oftentimes, people won’t try things because they’re afraid
to fail, but my philosophy in life is all about winning by losing.
When you’re trying to beat bad odds, you have to do more than what’s
expected (like going to college and working hard). A lot more. And you have to be your own champion.
general rule: the bigger the disappointment, the harder I keep trying.
A wise man once said, “Instead of crying, I keep on trying.”
They were also figuring it out as they went—and that’s nothing to be ashamed of.
didn’t need to have any special knowledge or power to give something I wanted to try a shot. I just needed to do it—and there’s a lot of freedom in that line of thinking.
Nick Saban once said, “I don’t want to waste a failure.” That struck me.
Every failure is some kind of opportunity in disguise. In fact, I’m only writing this book because I failed at pitching a children’s book.
Fail. Learn. Repeat. Fail. Learn. Repeat. Keep failing, until you don’t.
“Brains and talent don’t bring success. . . . They can stand in the way of it.”
Knowing you can improve is a highly undervalued form of intelligence. Some
“Failure is information,” Dweck later told Forbes. “We label it failure, but it’s more like, ‘This didn’t work, and I’m a problem solver, so I’ll try something else.’”
As long as we can find the resilience to bounce
defeat and the consciousness to learn from it, we can ...
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attitude toward whatever you...
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If you think that you’re a loser because you didn’t get math, the girl, or the job, you’re probably going to have an even hard...
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you can flip the idea of rejection on its head and turn it into a chance to improve your algebra or your pickup lines, t...
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beginning of a long, optimistic hike up...
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Failure is when you’re working toward a positive goal and you either have a setback or have to start from square one. Screwing up is when you’re not thinking or when you’re making excuses for why something’s okay when you know it really isn’t.
Fight. Grind. Repeat. Those three simple words were enough to shift my psychological state from defeat to, if not victory, at least the will to stay in the game.
Fight: Because every day is a fight. In some form or other. It could be a fight from within to push yourself to a new limit,
could be against one of the many people in this world who w...
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technique and stamina. This is the everyday stuff that’s not cool or interesting or all that brave.
Repeat: Now take the Fight, the Grind, the failure—and then do it all again. And again. And again. The Repeat is truly the only way to separate yourself from the pack, and where it gets really hard. It’s also where you’ll find true success.
Brainstorm a bunch of words for each category. Maybe less negative words work for you (like “Dream, Hard Work, Revision”). Or maybe you go for humor (“Crap, Crappier, Crappiest”).
The actual words don’t matter; it’s the concepts behind them.
Whatever words stick in your head and stay in your heart are the ones you should use to know that you’ll be bad at stuff when you first start out and that that shouldn’t stop you from pursuing your dreams...
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So, the long-term payoff is way nicer than the momentary pain.
enjoy the uncomfortable feeling when something is unfamiliar and hard enough to make me consider quitting.
Because, just like in life, you are going to get hit in the ring. So you need to plant your body at the right angle so you are only grazed instead of absorbing a full shot to the nose.
setting up the right foundation so you can feel your strongest.
Like Mike Tyson said, “Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.”
it feels like I’m getting punched in the face. During those times, I deflect the shot as much as I can, learn from it, and use that knowledge to my advantage. That, for me, is the Fight.
Remember
as my life has evolved, that it is never not a struggle.
Truth
The sooner you embrace this truth, the sooner you can leave behind the bitterness of what you don’t have and start
#truth
THE FIGHT IS . . . What words do you use to describe the Fight? Here are some of mine: STRUGGLE WORK REFLECTION PASSION HOPE ADVANTAGE CHALLENGE VICTORY FAILURE
