A third, however, has not even here got to the limit of his distrust and his desire for possession: he asks himself whether the woman, when she gives up everything for him, does not perhaps do so for a phantom of him; he wishes first to be thoroughly, indeed, profoundly well known; in order to be loved at all he ventures to let himself be found out. Only then does he feel the beloved one fully in his possession, when she no longer deceives herself about him, when she loves him just as much for the sake of his devilry and concealed insatiability, as for his goodness, patience, and spirituality.
This is a stupid concept. We accept flaws in others, but we don't especially love them for it. Minor flaws might have their charm. Perhaps their nose is a bit crooked.
If, on the other hand, you are a staunchly independent woman with no interest in being tied down to the traditional roles of wife and mother, being pressured by Nietzsche to have romantic feelings for you will not be well received. (Lou)
No, people won't love you for believing ng needy and desperate.
