speak. They will endorse our lonely, confused, hard-to-reach aspects just by intuition. This is very touching, but a huge problem in the long-term. It dissuades us from the difficult but necessary task of explaining ourselves: what we want, how we feel, why we are sad, what irritates us. We start to believe that a good lover should simply know the contents of our minds without us doing anything to share them. The fact that they understood parts of our minds so well, and so naturally, at one particular point leads to the counterproductive feeling that they should therefore understand the whole
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