The Power of Heart Language: 7 Proven Ways To Connect, Inspire & Influence

by Monte Taylor

“What are the 10 to 20% of the activities that will create 80 to 90% of my results?”

“Would you be willing to consider the possibility that one of the most powerful, people-pleasing, influential, yet underused life success skills, is the willingness and ability to regularly express gratitude?”

Heart language consists of seven extraordinary people communication skills—seven habitudes: Sharing Gratitude, Embracing Forgiveness, Listening Fearlessly, Spreading Encouragement, Leaking Joy, Nurturing Vulnerability, and Avoiding Judgment.

the “spirit of gratitude” is typically associated with a high satisfaction of life, optimal functioning, and universal wellbeing. (Dumas, Johnson & Lynch, 2002)

Gratitude has been shown to lower blood pressure, improve immune function, promote happiness and well-being, and spur continued acts of helpfulness, generosity, and cooperation. (Emmons and McCullough 2003)

Participants who kept gratitude lists or journals were more likely to make positive progress toward all their important personal goals,

including academic, interpersonal and

health-based objectives. (Sheldon and Lyubomirsky, 2006; Emmons & McC...

One of the best ways to cultivate and develop the habit of gratitude is to establish a daily practice to remind yourself of the gifts, the grace, and the benefits of all the good things you enjoy.

“the first one was the right one”

every

relationship in our life has a gift for us—no matter how frustrating, disappointing or pai...

gratitude and forgiveness are two sides of the same coin of the human spirit,

Writing a forgiveness letter is a ‘heroic opportunity’ to move away from your role as a victim—and ultimately release any power or control the event or the person had over your life.

it is not necessary to be loyal to your suffering.

to pause, to consider, and take responsibility for one thing in the relationship. It could be anything large or small the person (may have) contributed to ‘co-creating’ the circumstances or event that needed forgiving in the first place.

The hallmarks of fearless listening are unbiased engagement with another, listening without expectation and without striving for an outcome,

“self-disclosure feels so rewarding at a cellular synapse level, most people can’t stop themselves from sharing their thoughts.”

Empathetic listening requires a willful override of our brains’ favored modes of

“interested rather than interesting”

When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.” —Karl Menninger

Listening, carefully, fearlessly, and humbly dissolves the barriers between people—so it deserves your commitment—and

encouragement as, “the process of facilitating the development of a person’s inner resources and active movement or change."

your intention creates your reality.

Wishing, hoping, and goal-setting cannot accomplish change without specific intention.

The “eudaemonistic theory” of life holds that we are the happiest when we discover its meaning.

“In this case, I would like all who come in contact with me to feel well. But I want to know nothing about it.”

Vulnerability is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.

Start by having an authentic conversation about what you value most, beliefs about yourself and your place in the world in order to be vulnerable with others.

we can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly.