The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) (The Art Of Living Well Book 1)

by Damon Zahariades

For example, in the beginning, just focus on not saying yes immediately. Give yourself a few moments to consider requests and how they’ll impact your day. Interrupting your instinctive response will help to short circuit the habit. Next, examine the reasons you’re inclined to say yes. Are those reasons valid? For example, do you desire the requestor’s approval? Do you need that person to validate your sense of worth? Is it important to you that you’re included in his or her circle of friends? You may find that this learned behavior (i.e. automatically saying yes) is prompted by motivations that are trivial to you. It’s not easy to reverse a habit you’ve developed over years of repeated application. But it can be done. The first - and arguably most important - step is to recognize the habit exists.

Again a great advice