There are four essential steps to the restorative, wind-down period prior to sleep: You gotta check out and turn off your phone and email so you can check in with yourself and the ones you love. You gotta open up your journal and get your mind off the hamster wheel that creates the mental static and anxiety that prevent so many of us from owning our days. You gotta enjoy the cuddle huddle: playing, watching, reading. You gotta brush your damn teeth and soak your damn bones.