When you sacrifice your self for your partner, thus obligating him to give you his self in return, you unconsciously see your partner as symbolic of God. Thus, when you sacrifice the self you despise (because it is not special enough) and thereby attack your partner with guilt, you are sending a hidden message of guilt to God, blaming Him for not making you special enough. And when you wrest from your partner his self and its cache of specialness, it is as if you have wrested from God the specialness He denied you. Having (in your eyes) successfully blamed God and forced Him to give you the
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