For each of these familiar comforting statements, add the phrase “so stop feeling so bad.” At least you had her for as long as you did (so stop feeling so bad). He died doing something he loved (so stop feeling so bad). You can always have another child (so stop feeling so bad). If you cringe or feel angry when friends and family try to comfort you, it’s because you hear the second half of that sentence, even when they don’t say it out loud.
