“I am angry at the Buddhist priest I desperately consulted early on to make myself be “mindful” in my grief. He told me about the Four Noble Truths—that my suffering is all in the mind, and that I needed to let go of my attachment. Those were the cruelest words I ever could hear. He kept saying “it’s all in the mind, it’s all in the mind.” And when I rocked back and forth through my tearstained pain and asked him, “But what about the heart?” he had no answers for me. MONIKA U. CURLIN, Writing Your Grief student, on the accidental death of her husband, Fred
