One of the best things someone said to me as I approached Matt’s one-year date was, “You always have the right to leave, even if you just got there, even if you planned the whole thing. No one else has to live this like you do. Leave whenever you need.” Just having that permission to leave made it easier to stay. No matter what you’ve planned, you can change your mind at any time. It’s also OK to not plan anything, instead waiting to check in with yourself when that special date comes. Often, the lead-up to a big date is harder than the date itself. Maybe you want to do something, maybe not.
