What I’m proposing is a third path. A middle way. Not on, not off. A way to tend to pain and grief by bearing witness. By neither turning away, nor by rushing redemption, but by standing there, right there, inside the obliterated universe. By somehow making a home there. By showing that you can make a life of your own choosing, without having to pick one thing over another: leave your love behind but be “OK,” or retain your connections and be “stuck.” Finding that middle ground is the real work of grief—my work, and yours. Each of us, each one of us, has to find our way into that middle
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