It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

by Megan Devine

SUPPORT IN THE WRECKAGE Finding out what you need in order to feel, not “OK” with all this, but somehow companioned and supported inside the wreckage, is the heavy work of surviving grief. To explore your own needs, you might write your responses to the questions below. Or you might respond to something else in Mirabai’s passage. Whatever calls you, write into that. • What would you need in order to feel more supported inside your pain? How can we make an impossible situation more kind, gentler, and easier on your heart? • You might address your pain as a separate being: “In order to feel safe enough to face you, I would need . . .” • You might begin a free write with the line: “If you want me to breathe in this wreckage . . .”