It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

by Megan Devine

Grief is part of love. Love for life, love for self, love for others. What you are living, painful as it is, is love. And love is really hard. Excruciating at times.

When you are broken, the correct response is to be broken. It’s a form of spiritual hubris to pretend otherwise.

It’s in finding the depth of love necessary to witness each other’s pain without rushing in to clean it up.

We have to be willing to stop diminishing our own pain so that others can be comfortable around us.

Grief is not a sign that you’re unwell or unevolved. It’s a sign that love has been part of your life, and that you want love to continue, even here.

“You create your own reality” is so patently untrue, and so cruel to the grieving heart.

You cannot manifest death or health or loss or grief just by thinking about it. Your thoughts did not create this loss. Your