Or you find out, days or weeks after the fact, that someone’s feelings were hurt when you didn’t respond to them in a certain way, or that you didn’t seem to want to talk to them. Meanwhile, you have no recollection of even seeing them at all. Or people launch into long speeches about what you should do to fix your pain because this is what they did when (fill in the blank) happened to them. How stunningly odd that is, to hear that you might just need to go out dancing after your child dies because that’s what the speaker needed after their divorce. I
