We have it so deeply engrained in us that any kind of hardship shouldn’t last more than a couple of months, at most. Anything more than that is considered malingering. As though the loss of someone you love were just a temporary inconvenience, something minor, and surely not something to stay upset over. Our medical model calls grief that lasts longer than six months a “disorder.” Descriptions of so-called complicated grief—grief requiring psychological intervention—include still longing for the person who has died, feelings of injustice, and a pervasive sense that the world can never go back
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