For the first year or two after Matt died, I couldn’t follow meditations or visualizations that had me focus on my breath. When I tried, or was directed to do so, all I could see or feel or remember was that Matt’s body had no breath. Putting attention into my body itself reminded me, viscerally, painfully, that Matt no longer had a body. That my own body could fail at any time. Some teachings also suggest that you imagine yourself in your “happy place” when you’re overcome with emotion. In early grief, a “happy place” is pretty well impossible to find. There is no place your loss does not
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