“According to some clinical diagnostic criteria, I am suffering from moderate to severe depression, and my anxiety levels are high. My therapist suggests antidepressants and some online cognitive behavioral therapy. I leave feeling worse than when I went in. I’m not just grieving anymore. I’m now mentally ill. Someone in some central NHS office has created a downloadable test that tells me so. It must be true: I am failing grief. I try not to let it get to me, but I wonder again if I should be over this by now. I have passed the six-month milestone after all.

