It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

by Megan Devine

There is nothing wrong with grief. It’s a natural extension of love. It’s a healthy and sane response to loss. That grief feels bad doesn’t make it bad; that you feel crazy doesn’t mean you are crazy.

Platitudes about coming through this “even stronger” and admonishments to “remember the good times” feel like a slap in the face.

Grief is as individual as love. That someone has experienced a loss—even one similar to yours—does not mean they understand you.

The path forward is integration, not betterment.

Grief is as individual as love: every life, every path, is unique.

The way to get through the pain of being human is not to deny it, but to experience it.