“You create your own reality” is so patently untrue, and so cruel to the grieving heart. Many of us already feel responsible for what’s happened, both the death of someone we love, and the fact that we somehow aren’t doing our grief “well enough.” While this adage might (and I mean might) have a bare thread of truth in it, for the most part, it’s utter junk. Your thoughts can influence how you respond to what is, but your thoughts do not create what is.
