If we elect to adopt a monogamy norm in our own marriage, we should probably appreciate the magnitude of that commitment. We should consider either what other things we’re willing to forgo in our marriage or what additional investments we’re willing to make for the arrangement to be fulfilling, perhaps including efforts to keep our bodies fit and, in some cases, to have sex even when we’d rather not.
Exactly - if you want to be monogamous you’ve got to step it up
