Hung Like a Seahorse: A Real-Life Transgender Adventure of Tragedy, Comedy, and Recovery

by Quinn Alexander Fontaine

I’ve learned that when I’m blocked in one direction, it’s possible to find another way to communicate my energy, to be creative, and to be expressive.

I learned early on: • To be small • To be invisible • To be silent

Rather, I just have such a hard time doing what other people seemingly do with ease.

By attaining money and material objects to feel a false sense of power

• What lights me up from the inside out? • What excites me more than anything else? • What lights me up with a sense of purpose and childlike wonder?

say: No. I need to feel my way through or into this. It’s

No, you’re not being emotional; instead we are all always emotional. When you’re shutting down by crying, you’re either sad, angry, frustrated, or lonely. Let’s learn a deeper emotional intelligence in which we can actually name our feelings, moment to moment.

Next, don’t let your dreams die. Don’t let your dreams be too small. Don’t get too comfortable with your dreams. If it feels that you’re already living them but there’s further you can go, go there. Trust this. Surround yourself with people who talk like this or talk the way that resonates with you and your truth and how and who you want to be in this world.