The reason he was able to help me was because I took responsibility for helping him. To backtrack, I’d gone into a spiral because he was three hours late in ringing me to make plans for the day (hey, he’s laid-back!). Which was just a trigger. But the uncertainty of not knowing what was happening and if I should call (and all the other uncertain early-relationship stuff that goes on) and the Weekend Panic and my anxiety about being anxious saw me go down, down, down. But I didn’t say this at first. I just said I was in a panic. I was, simply, vulnerable. I didn’t plant the cause on him. I just
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