Single-loop learners look to their spouses, partners, bosses, or subordinates for reasons why things aren’t going well; they blame everything on other people. There’s always a reason why problems can be traced back to the other person in the relationship. Double-loop learners, however, take ownership of problems; they think: There must be something I’m doing that’s making my spouse/partner/coworker react this way. They take complete ownership of their situations. They dig deep to figure out where the disconnect is and where they can improve. They shoulder blame and find solutions.
