It’s easy to distinguish between different learners in personal and professional relationships. Single-loop learners look to their spouses, partners, bosses, or subordinates for reasons why things aren’t going well; they blame everything on other people. There’s always a reason why problems can be traced back to the other person in the relationship. Double-loop learners, however, take ownership of problems; they think: There must be something I’m doing that’s making my spouse/partner/coworker react this way. They take complete ownership of their situations. They dig deep to figure out where
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