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In human domestication, the information from the outside dream is conveyed to the inside dream, creating our whole belief system.
The reward is the attention that we got from our parents or from other people like siblings, teachers, and friends. We soon develop a need to hook other people’s attention in order to get the reward.
The reward feels good, and we keep doing what others want us to do in order to get the reward. With that fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else.
The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our lives we no longer need anyone to domesticate us. We don’t need Mom or Dad, the school or the church to domesticate us. We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator.
We are an autodomesticated animal.
The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules our mind. Without question, whatever is in that Book of Law, is our truth. We base all of our judgments according to the Book of Law, even if these judgments go against our own inner nature.
inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do, everything we think and don’t think, and everything we feel and don’t feel.
There is another part of us that receives the judgments, and this part is called the Victim. The Victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame.
The Judge in the mind is wrong because the belief system, the Book of Law, is wrong.
Fire is generated by emotions that come from fear. Whenever we feel the emotions of anger, jealousy, envy, or hate, we experience a
fire burning within us. We are living in a dream of hell.
To be alive is the biggest fear humans have. Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive — the risk to be alive and express what we really are.
We cannot forgive ourselves for not being what we wish to be, or rather what we believe we should be. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being perfect.
We try to hide ourselves, and we pretend to be what we are not.
They are not aware that the problem is that they don’t accept themselves. They reject themselves because they are not what they pretend to be.
But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system that make us do this.
The way we judge ourselves is the worst judge that ever existed.
Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal.
Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; it is why we don’t accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don’t accept others the way they are.
the most important agreements are the ones you made with yourself.
In these agreements you say, “This is what I am. This is what I believe. I can do certain things, and some things I cannot do. This is reality, that is fantasy; this is possible, that is impossible.”
A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself. Everything you feel or believe or say that goes against yourself is a sin. You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything.
Being impeccable is not going against yourself. When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.
Sin begins with rejection of yourself. Self-rejection is the biggest sin that you commit.
If I love myself I will express that love in my interactions with you, and then I am being impeccable with the word, because that action will produce a like reaction.
If you make an agreement with yourself to be impeccable with your word, just with that intention, the truth will manifest through
you and clean all the emotional poison that exists within you.
Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison — to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate. The word is pure magic — the most powerful gift we have as humans — and we use it against ourselves.
That is why we must forgive them; they don’t know what they do.
We must begin to understand what the word is and what the word does.
Your opinion is nothing but your point of view. It is not necessarily true. Your opinion comes from your beliefs, your own ego, and your own dream.
You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word.
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Tell yourself how wonderful you are, how great you are. Tell yourself how much you love yourself.
Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me.”
Immunity to poison in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement.
We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.
These assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreements to communicate this way. We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel. When we believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that we will destroy relationships in order to defend our position.
We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this creates a lot of inner conflict. “I think I am able to do this.” You make this assumption, for instance, then you discover you aren’t able to do it. You overestimate or underestimate yourself because you haven’t taken the time to ask yourself questions and to answer them.
Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them. If we try to change them, this means we don’t really like them.
We have to be what we are, so we don’t have to present a false image. If you love me the way I am, “Okay, take me.” If you don’t love me the way I am, “Okay, bye-bye. Find someone else.” It may sound harsh, but this kind of communication means the personal agreements we make with others are clear and impeccable.
Also, find your voice to ask for what you want. Everybody has the right to tell you no or yes, but you always have the right to ask.
Forgiveness is the only way to heal.
