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Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in.
we try to impose our world on their world.
How to communicate?
Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up.
You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage. But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell.
When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts.
nothing they think about me is really about me, but it is about them.
What about genuine feedback? At least, on behaviour?
you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself.
way you see that movie is according to the agreements you have made with life. Your point of view is something personal to you.
if you get mad at me, I know you are dealing with yourself. I am the excuse for you to get mad. And you get mad because you are afraid, because you are dealing with fear.
If you live without fear, if you love, there is no place for any of those emotions.
the mind also sees and perceives without the eyes, although the reason is hardly aware of this perception.
We have a choice whether or not to believe the voices we hear within our own minds, just as we have a choice of what to believe and agree with in the dream of the planet.
Every agreement is like a separate living being; it has its own personality and its own voice. There are conflicting agreements that go against other agreements and on and on until it becomes a big war in the mind.
inventory of our agreements will we uncover all of the conflicts in the mind and eventually make order out of the chaos
Humans are addicted to suffering at different levels and to different degrees, and we support each other in maintaining these addictions.
Do not expect people to tell you the truth because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you.
if others lie to you, it is okay. They are lying to you because they are afraid.
They lack trust?
If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you.
You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you.
you can travel around the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say, “I love you,” without fear of being ridiculed or rejected.
you can be in the middle of hell and still experience inner peace and happiness.
Is this true? The inverse certainly is...
Milton - mind is its own place...
The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.
The whole war of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things personally.
Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions,
Direct communication, rather than assumptions and gossip...
We only see what we want to see, and hear what we want to hear. We don’t perceive things the way they are.
If they don’t do what we assume they should do, we feel so hurt and say, “You should have known.”
Covert contract
You decide to get married, and you make the assumption that your partner sees marriage the same way that you do. Then you live together and you find out this is not true.
We have the need to justify everything, to explain and understand everything, in order to feel safe.
assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreements to communicate this way. We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel.
we have a fear of being ourselves around others. Because we think everyone else will judge us, victimize us, abuse us, and blame us as we do ourselves.
Often when you go into a relationship with someone you like, you have to justify why you like that person. You only see what you want to see and you deny there are things you don’t like about that person. You lie to yourself just to make yourself right.
Suddenly you see what you didn’t want to see before, only now it is amplified by your emotional poison.
Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them.
We have to be what we are, so we don’t have to present a false image.
find your voice to ask for what you want. Everybody has the right to tell you no or yes, but you always have the right to ask.
If you don’t understand something, it is better for you to ask and be clear, instead of making an assumption.
All human problems would be resolved if we could just have good, clear communication.
Don't problems require work also, not just communication?
Taking the action over and over again strengthens your will, nurtures the seed, and establishes a solid foundation for the new habit to grow.
white magician uses the word for creation, giving, sharing, and loving. By making this one agreement a habit, your whole life will be completely transformed.
Also receiving? Giving judiciously.
On love - the word is often misused.
And Trent Reznor - love is not enough - also need to do the work...
When you transform your whole dream, magic just happens in your life. What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you.
Able and not Cain?
no more and no less than your best. If you try too hard to do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed and in the end your best will not be enough.
always do your best there is no way you can judge yourself. And if you don’t judge yourself there is no way you are going to suffer from guilt, blame, and self-punishment. By always doing your best, you will break a big spell that you have been under.
“You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life. You are here to live, to be happy, and to love. If you can do your best in two hours
Doing your best is taking the action because you love it, not because you’re expecting a reward.
they don’t like themselves. They don’t like their life. There are many ways that we hurt ourselves when we don’t like who we are.
if you take action just for the sake of doing it, without expecting a reward, you will find that you enjoy every action you do. Rewards will come, but you are not attached to the reward.
Learning from your mistakes means you practice, look honestly at the results, and keep practicing. This increases your awareness.
television every day for years because you are afraid to be alive
Also lazy?
The idol itself is not important. What is important is the way they perform the ritual, the way they say, “I love you, God.”
letting go of the past and living in the present moment, right here and now. Whatever life takes away from you, let it go.
