Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely

by Lysa TerKeurst

Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst of

what’s been said to me.

For years I’d heard people talking about putting my identity in Christ. I nodded my head. I memorized by rote Colossians 3:12, which proclaimed I was one of “God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved.” But when life felt threatening, I’d revert right back to the old thought patterns of feeling unloved and unwanted.

Old patterns of thought must be torn out, and a new way of looking at the core of who I am using God’s truth has to be put into place. My identity must be anchored to the truth of who God is and who He is to me. Only then can I find a stability beyond what my feelings will ever allow. The closer I align my truth with His truth, the more closely I identify with God—and the more my identity really is in Him.

when my identity is tied to circumstances I become extremely insecure because circumstances are unpredictable and ever-changing.

It’s time to stop the lies and devastating hurt stemming from this kind of circumstantial identity. We must tie our identities to our unchanging, unflinching, unyielding, undeniably good, and unquestionably loving God.

“I’m Yours, God. I’m not who that guy says I am. I’m not who that girl says I am. I’m not who social media likes and comments say I am.

I’m not who the grades, to-do lists, messes, and mess ups say I am. I’m not who the scale says I am or the sum total of what my flaws say I am. I’m going to stop flirting with the unstable things of this world so I can fall completely in love with You. I am loved. I am held. I am Yours. I am forever Yours.”

Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires.

Girls who have the lingering whispers of rejection still echoing in the hollows of their soul rarely feel completely held safe.

Her giving grace doesn’t justify her husband or validate David. It saves her.