This is a vitally important distinction. Underperformers rarely reflect on their lessons learned, and if they do, they are too hard on themselves. And even when they win, they rarely integrate that win into their identity. They did well yet don’t feel any stronger because of it. They just don’t let themselves feel the win. They didn’t get what gamers would call a “power-up.” In conversations with them, it’s obvious that they don’t recognize how much they’ve learned, how far they’ve come, what they are capable of doing now or in the future. They lowball themselves even when they’ve put in the
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