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Superiority, dissatisfaction, and neglect are your enemies. Let them invade your life, and you lose. Be vigilant, avoid them, and practice your HP6, and all will be well.
You know what to do and how to be. I guess the only real question that matters is how you want to connect with this audience
how does this champion sitting right here in front of me want to connect with her people today?” “I want to love on them. I want them to know I got a medal because of their support.”
Why would confidence help us avoid burnout? High performers tell me it’s because when you are more confident, you are more willing to say no and more sure of what to focus on, which makes you more efficient and less prone to distraction.
Becoming more confident is good for your health; it decreases burnout; and it makes you feel happy, willing to take on new challenges, and more fulfilled. For these reasons, I like to say that nothing correlates like confidence.
the more knowledge, skill, ability, or talent—that is, competence—you have at a given task, the more likely you are to be confident and perform well.
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Having learned so many things in the past, they trust they can do it again. In this way, it became clear that the internal voice of a high performer is saying, “I believe in my ability to figure things out.”
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just because you can’t keep up doesn’t mean you can’t show up. Only by showing up consistently, even when you’re the greenest novice, will you ever get that experience and confidence.
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High performers ponder the lessons from their wins. They give credit to themselves, and they allow those wins to integrate into their psyche and give them greater strength.
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It’s hard to be congruent. Naturally, different parts of us are engaged at different times. Our identity, personality, states, and standards may vary from one context to the next.
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To feel more congruent, though, we will have to be more conscious about who we are and what kind of life we want to live. We will have to be conscious in crafting and maintaining our identity.
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remember to fill out the Clarity Chart™ each week. Enter each week with intention for who you want to be, then align your actions with that self-image, and you’ll gain greater confidence.
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Confidence comes from being truthful with yourself and others. You have to avoid the little lies that can easily tear at the fabric of your character. If you lie about the small things, you will cause a catastrophe when faced with the big things. Your heart and soul want to know you’ve lived an honest life. If you break that trust, you risk feeling incongruent and ruining your performance. Stand in your truth and tell the truth, and you’ll feel congruent.
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Curiosity x (Competence + Congruence + Connection) = Confidence The promise of this equation is that you don’t have to pretend to be superhuman. You just have to care enough to learn new things, to live in alignment with who you want to become, to take interest in others. You’ll feel better about yourself, and research shows that curiosity itself can improve your well-being.8 Curiosity is the electric arc for a life bright with joy and vibrancy. To get there, you just have to start conditioning the internal dialogue that says . . . I know what to do and how to add value here (or at least I
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Curiosity x (Competence + Congruence + Connection) = Confidence The promise of this equation is that you don’t have to pretend to be superhuman. You just have to care enough to learn new things, to live in alignment with who you want to become, to take interest in others. You’ll feel better about yourself, and research shows that curiosity itself can improve your well-being.8 Curiosity is the electric arc for a life bright with joy and vibrancy. To get there, you just have to start conditioning the internal dialogue that says . . . I know what to do and how to add value here (or at least I
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I felt that striving to become my best self was a way to earn the great blessing of the second chance I was given. That striving led to a life of learning and, ultimately, to the discovery of these high performance habits.
