Here’s the thing that has been the most shocking and that no one prepares you for: the freedom. Women today are not taught how to deal with this kind of freedom, any more than women of our mothers’ generation were taught to deal with their own money. We enable others’ freedom—as home keepers, child-minders—but are rarely rewarded for having our own. Meanwhile, men, or white men, have been taught nothing but. It’s the goddamn ethos of this country: Go West, be free, grow up with the country.
