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You do not need romantic interest to discover your life’s purpose. Your journey begins with your Maker.
When you have a source of life, you are a source of life. But where there is scarcity, desperation will set in.
If you are disconnected from a source of life, your “oxygen tank,” then you will attempt to suck life out of someone else.
You will, in a moment, become a sucker of life rather tha...
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We must get a relationship with God right before we will ever get a relationship with a guy or a girl right.
Your relationship with a guy or a girl, though important, is not the most critical relationship in your life, and it is not the relationship that God is the most concerned with.
Before you marry a mate, you need to meet your Maker,
We have to be connected to a source of life if we are going to be a source of life.
Do you want to be a great lover of people?
Love embraced becomes love extended. It is the natural outworking of being loved by God.
First, love sends.
Second, love sacrifices. Love gives all for the sake of the beloved.
Third, love stays. Love delights in the presence of the beloved. And love will stay, even when the staying is hard.
True love stays even when it is hard. True love stays when everyone else walks out.
You do not need to spend a single moment of your life trying to earn the love or esteem of others. You have his. You do not need to look for anyone to fill up your tank of love. You can find an abundance in him.
God cares deeply about your love life and your marriage. I would daresay he cares much more about them than even you do.
“Let not our longing slay our appetite for living.”
this does not define your singleness, then you are doing singleness wrong.
If these unmarried moments of your life are not spent in passionate pursuit of your Maker, then they will often be marked by a sense of aimlessness and frustration.
I don’t want you to miss the benefits of now because you’re fixated on the benefits of then.
“If we do not initiate the boys, they will burn the village down.”
The world marvels at men and women who can exude a confidence like this. People long for a peace like this that surpasses understanding.
you can find someone who has great character and with whom you have great chemistry. Then you can run into the future God has for you together, and that is a pretty amazing ride.
That is the vision we are aiming for in marriage: a couple hand in hand, pursuing God together—same direction, same pace, good chemistry.
This is what marriage is meant to be. Dating is the modern process of evaluation we use to...
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I have found that peoples’ descriptions of their ideal date’s attributes are really just idealized versions of themselves.
And believe it or not, the data suggests that you really don’t know a lot about what that person will be like.
This is the great joy in marriage: linking hands with someone and running after the same goal together.
You want godly character and good chemistry.
The Four Loves: “When the two people who thus discover that they are on the same secret road are of different sexes, the friendship which arises between them will very easily pass—may pass in the first half-hour—into erotic love.”
The environment is too dynamic. Someone could give you a step-by-step book, but it would just be a history lesson of what worked that one time they crossed the ocean.
I can relax and enjoy every moment of my life because I rest in the knowledge that my strong and loving God is leading me in a good way.
We don’t get to know everything in this life, but we do get to know the One who knows everything,
He is strong enough to carry you and loving enough to want to.
Yet, in the world of dating and relationships, ambiguity is the seedbed of anxiety.
I trust the Lord with my life. I trust the Lord with your life. So if in any way this feels off or uncomfortable to you, then we will just stop. No pressure.”
If you are a Christian, then you believe this world is going to hell, but in the midst of the tragedy we have the remedy. We know the Hero of the story and we’ve been given a few short years to leverage every bit of influence we have to spread the message that life is available in him. We don’t have time to mess around with people’s emotions. Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Be clear about the process.
But there are no biblical obligations for a status called dating.
True love does not request access to your body while simultaneously avoiding any responsibility to care for you emotionally and financially.
is important to note that the introduction of sex into a dating context sabotages the evaluation process.
From that day forward I made a vow to myself: If I ever date a girl, regardless of whether or not we marry, I want her to be able to say, “I am a better person for having spent time in proximity to that man.” I believe that is a great aim in dating.
Surround yourselves with godly counsel, and your chances of victory rise exponentially.
I pray that God in his due time would bring you the right prince or princess to love you all your days. But I pray that your hopes in your season of singleness would not be fixed on a prince or a princess, but on the King.
Sex is a gift that will bring warmth and life to a marriage.
You desire both emotional and physical connection. You desire to be a whole, integrated person. I would submit that you desire this precisely because God designed you this way. Your desires reveal your design.
while principles can shape our thinking, pictures can capture our imagination.
God loves to create families.
I challenge you to adopt Abraham’s perspective: the God who leads us will also provide for us.
Don’t be a believer who doesn’t believe God will care for you.
Find someone whose character makes you want to fall on your knees and thank God.
