An internal drive toward love and holiness. You want that in a mate. Why? Because that mate will continue to look more like Jesus and manifest his qualities throughout life—whether you deserve to be treated well or not, whether you provide incentive or not. Because there will be times when you are being a selfish jerk, or your anxiety or fear in life will manifest in a moment of panic or embarrassing selfishness. You want someone who will love you through the chaos because they love Jesus.
