The art of conversation is constant mindfulness of war and peace. When someone says something offensive, we recognize immediately that we’re on the razor’s edge of how to handle ourselves. Will I create war or will I create peace? Often it is not about what the other is saying. It is more that he is trying to destabilize us with his words. Can we be strong, not lose our confidence, not fall into the trap of a word game? Can we see what is happening and conquer our own anger? By doing this, we disarm the aggression arising in others.
