One mind-training slogan says, “Be friendly to yourself.” By slowing down to self-reflect or meditate, you have the opportunity to learn gentleness toward yourself through exploring what is happening in your mind and body right now. When you see harshness, self-criticism, and lack of respect, apply appreciation, mindfulness, and contentment. These qualities are always available. The self-assured strength that grows from knowing we already have what we need makes us gentle. We are gentle because we are no longer desperate.
