Another form of not listening is being self-absorbed with a tinge of aggression. In this type of antilistening, we simply disregard what the other person is saying and proceed with our own agenda. We barge ahead with what we’re going to say, ignoring the other person’s thoughts, feelings, insights, and emotions. Or perhaps we listen to her first few words and rush to our own conclusion. We may think simply, “Here she goes again.” “Knowing” what someone is about to say and not allowing her to say it is simply rude. You may think you’re saving someone time by pretending to read his mind and move
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