In a conversation, sometimes all varieties of thoughts and emotions come into your mind and you are simply overwhelmed. You might even blame your partner for your emotional state. In such a case, the best practice is to close your mouth and look at your thoughts. If you consider who is responsible for the thoughts in your mind, eventually you realize that they are not coming from the other person. You are creating those emotions yourself, and often they are coloring your mind so strongly that you are projecting them onto the other person.
