“What becomes possible when we’re being real with each other?” she asked. “Maybe your feelings get hurt when I tell you I don’t like the way you’re touching me.” How many times have I hesitated to tell a partner what I liked or didn’t like, for fear of hurting their feelings, for fear of having to care for their emotions in the aftermath of that disclosure? I thought to myself as she talked. “But what is possible after that?” she continued. “Learning new ways of touching. Once you’ve experienced that erotic awakening you cannot settle for suffering.”
