Some Kind of Wonderful

by Giovanna Fletcher

‘Everyone who comes into our lives leaves their mark. That’s how we grow, mature and evolve as humans. There’s nothing wrong with that.’

Don’t be sad about what wasn’t. Look forward with excitement to what might happen! There are so many possibilities.’

People are meant to come into our lives and affect us. They’re meant to challenge us and help us to grow.

‘Money is pointless if all you ever want is more of it. A good job means nothing if you hate it. Life will always be a disappointment, no matter what you achieve, if you’re longing for something else.’

A partner should be an added bonus to my life, not the centre of it … or maybe just off-centre so everything sits a little more equally.

‘You know, even when I was in a relationship I had those worries. Everyone was overtaking me,’ I tell her, fascinated by how similar our insecurities would have been even though we would’ve thought we were in such different situations. ‘It worried me so much I became obsessed by it. I didn’t want to be left behind and so preoccupied with what everyone else was doing. Always looking longingly outwards rather than contentedly inwards.’

We never really know what others are going through or have been through. Sometimes even the happiest of souls can be the ones suffering the worst pain.

Allowing all of those parts to shine is surely the only way I will ever feel content and happy. I will forever be working on my progress list, and that’s life. I’m not meant to be who I was yesterday, last year or a decade ago. Changing isn’t a weakness or something to be ashamed of. Evolving can only be seen as a success. Allowing people in will always be the making of me, whether for better or worse. I’m lots of things, and just as different experiences along the way shape me into the person I am at one given moment, so too do the people I encounter. And that’s got to be some kind of wonderful.