Interestingly, research has found that reframing our relationships can make us feel less alone. Psychologists differentiate between perceived support and received support, and highlight that when it comes to reducing the risk of depression, perceived support is more important than actually receiving support. Believing you’re cared for, which may have a lot to do with thoughts that allow for feeling connected, matters more than actual support. I love the TOC People are doing the best they can. In contrast, the TIC They should do better gets in the way of bonding and feeling close.
