How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

by Jenny Taitz

Three Minutes Toward a Healthier Life I’d love for you to take a few minutes to give mindful breathing a try. Mindfulness includes tracking your thoughts. To do that, you need to learn to pay attention. Begin by setting a timer for three to ten minutes. Sit in a relaxed position, with your spine tall. If you’re sitting in a chair, place your feet firmly on the ground; if you’re on the floor, fold your legs comfortably. Once your body is in a position that’s comfortable and sustainable, it’s easier for your mind to get on board. Next, bring your full attention to your breathing, just noticing each inhale and exhale. What’s so important about focusing on breathing? Well, since the breath is always there, it’s continuously available for you to use as a focal point. As mindfulness master Jon Kabat-Zinn says, “As long as you are breathing, there is more right with you than wrong, no matter how ill or hopeless you may feel.” I love that sentiment and I hope that your breath reminds you of that fact. As you try to focus on your breathing, know that your mind will probably wander. That’s totally normal. Instead of concluding that you’ve failed, then giving up and following your train of thought wherever it goes (What’s on my to-do list?), aim to see distractions as a time to practice compassionately coming back to your breath.