The problem is, our emotion mind tends to be very quick to persuade us of its wisdom. As Baumeister discovered, just thinking about aloneness summons a reaction from the emotion mind, literally impairing IQ. And if a quick experimental suggestion persuaded people to anticipate loneliness and sent them down an irrational path, imagine how swayed we are when our own inner voice and life experiences, bad dates, or a string of failed relationships do the convincing. It’s easy to forget that being single right now doesn’t predict the romantic equivalent of solitary confinement for the rest of your
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