Families often ask whether they should “spoil” the person by meeting his demands or whether they should try to “teach” him to behave differently. The best course is often neither of these strategies. Because he cannot control his behavior, you are not “spoiling” him, but it may be impossible for you to meet endless demands. Because the person has limited ability, if any, to learn, you cannot teach him, and scolding may precipitate catastrophic reactions.
