6. Know when to say yes and when to say no. Yes to those things that deepen the gathering—cultural grounding, local welcome, clarifying questions, learning in real time, suggestions to slow down. No to manipulative efforts to quiet others, pontification, ignorance. Yes to singing, bio breaks (bathroom, fresh air, snacks, self care), ending early (when the group has run out of energy for the day), talent shows, parties, and efforts to synthesize. No to judgment, delays, circular conversations, and people who are rejecting the process while offering no alternatives. And yes to passion, no to
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