Taming our riotously active minds is a bit like training a wild horse—not easy, but not impossible. Gradually, the tamed horse calms down and can be put to useful work. Then we can enjoy some degree of balance and rest. When you’re able to do this in a relationship—whether with someone who is dying, or your boss, spouse, or child—you will find that you have a capacity to experience life in an entirely different way. You can see the causes and conditions of the situation and skillfully interact with them in order to alleviate your own and others’ suffering. You can be the calm in the storm.
