Roles are a choice. When we choose to be in one role, we also choose not to be in another. If, as a young girl, I commit to the one-pointed, rigorous life of becoming a professional ballet dancer, I may choose to give up a traditional education or certain aspects of my social life. If in my role as a lawyer, I think it’s important to project the image of a strong, knowledgeable male, that I am cool in a crisis, I may find it difficult to disclose my weaknesses or embrace my more nurturing qualities. When we disown parts of ourselves, we tend to judge others who display those same qualities. We
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