In my own experience, it began to be uncomfortable for me only when I realized other people found it embarrassing, when it felt like this help was becoming burdensome to those providing it, and when I (wrongly) assumed it meant I could never be independent, move away from home, or have a partner. As in my case, it is the stigma around being a burden and needing help that is so often the issue, rather than the help itself. Given the power to choose who provides one’s care, and when one is assured that it need not be embarrassing or shameful, the effect of such close care on one’s quality of
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