In stage two, we learn to achieve validation in any way that we can, and not necessarily in the ways that will make us content with life. During stage two, more so than any other stage, a low tolerance for invalidation rises to the surface. This is an inability to tolerate any perceived invalidation that might come our way. Sometimes it is painful invalidation, like a lover who leaves you for another man or a friend who stabs you in the back with critical words spoken to others. Sometimes it is a slight invalidation, perhaps just a frown from a stranger or an innocent joke about your taste in
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