What he doesn’t realize is that gay men who no longer use sex to control their emotions are often relieved to grow older. The pressure to be sexy and out on the town is lifted. He no longer feels compelled to watch every calorie that passes his lips or spend seven hours a week at the gym. Instead, he is free to be himself, without all the cultural expectations that he be something else or that he must, at all costs, remain alluring to other men.
